Children learn what they live. When children live with criticism, they learn to condemn themselves and to find fault with others. They learn to doubt their own judgment and to disparage their own abilities in life. Individuals who are often criticized learn to distrust the intentions of others and live with a continual expectation of impending doom.
The easiest way to make children feel that there is something wrong with them is to criticize them. Criticism does not result in learned responsibility. If we want our children to learn something different from experiences, we need to give them information for future use without derogation. When we label children, we disable them.